The new-norm is a degenerate culture that praises mediocrity and refuses to embrace the good God that is manifest inside us.
Look to what the masses sedate themselves with.
Look to what the mainstream praises and holds up as aspirational.
And there you will find the real toxicity:
- Netflix-and-Chill
- Following orders without question
- Neglecting your body (no gym, no home-cooked meals)
- Illiteracy, incompetence, brain-dead culture
Death knells for masculinity, femininity, society.
How to Embrace Your Positive Non-Toxic Masculinity
It’s never easy to be a good person, let alone a good man.
Follow Jean Valjean’s story in Les Misérables and you’ll ask yourself how you can even get close to this paragon of goodness.
But it’s certainly easier to be a good man today than at any other time in human history.
Men today are weak.
You can simply be not that weak and you’ll be strong by comparison.
All it takes is my light touching upon where the majority of men could improve, hold them accountable, try to boost them and get the best out of them, and they are quick to moan and whine about my dunking on men.
Those who cry ‘man hate’ are always the most misogynistic.
A society in decline makes excuse for degeneracy.
One who sees the best in people holds them up to the highest moral standards.
If you fall short you’ll still live a life of dignity.
So I won’t cut coasters slack.
The rest of society is already doing that for you, and how has that worked out?
The difference is a society that makes allowances, excuses, rationales for poor behaviour doesn’t love the individuals that comprise that society.
In my misanthropy is my inherent love and high hopes for humanity.
Here’s how you embrace your positive non-toxic masculinity.
1 – Be grateful every day of your life
Acknowledging your privilege is actually a good thing to do.
But it should not be the reserve of one group, nor should it be bandied about like a barbed attack.
This is the most promising time to be alive.
There is a lot of uncertainty.
But uncertainty gives rise to opportunity.
Pressure forms diamonds.
When you find yourself all alone beweeping your outcast state, desiring this man’s art and that man’s scope, remember how good you really have it, and how much better it can be – it truly is limitless.
Read Turgenev’s ‘A Living Relic’ for some much-needed perspective.
Read the poetry of Rumi if you ever find yourself doubting the sun will rise again tomorrow.
2 – Be a lifelong scholar
80% of my readership is young women.
Young women have this handled, despite what low-tier men might say about the ‘Instagram Generation’.
70+% of readers are women, though I suspect the real percentage is actually much higher, especially when it comes to fiction, which I believe is more nourishing to one’s soul than non-fiction.
This makes it all the more ludicrous when some writers choose ‘he’ as the default to refer to the reader. The chances are you’re writing for women.
University attendance is overwhelmingly comprised of women.
Men are letting themselves fall by the wayside.
Readers:
- Are more articulate
- Have better critical thinking skills
- Have a keener sense of empathy
- Are more able to question their environment
- Are more in-tune with themselves, God, the universe
Why are men willingly bludgeoning their intellect?
Reject verbosity and you reject full-roundedness of life.
It’s easier to accept slop when you subject yourself only to gruel, never taking the step to know something higher.
This goes deeper, into the fundamentals of life.
What happens when you have a culture where one gender is well-read and the other is not?
That’s a lot of ladies who you are not even slightly eligible to date.
Demand more of yourself.
3 – Workout with weights
Humankind has marvelled at marble statues carved into shapes of sinewy men fighting monsters since long before the Ancient Greeks.
Masculine cultures like Hungary and Poland still display these statues with pride, making their town-squares into open-air art galleries.
Lockdown revealed the hell that most men call their existence.
The UK government forced its gyms to close in the spring for months on end, and just recently in the month of November. But it made sure to keep the fast food restaurants operating. Here’s your clue that your living in a tyrannical government that has nothing but despisement for its citizens at worst, or is wildly inept in what they believe to be a massive public health crisis at best. That’s a digression for another day.
Months without regular weightlifting sessions makes you weak of mind and body, flattens your mood, and crushes your spirit.
Masculinity means testosterone.
Masculinity means controlled power.
Masculinity means sublimated violence.
What happens when you take those God-given urges, eternally manifest throughout all species, and give them no outlet?
They turn inward.
Read Nietzsche.
Read Freud.
Disband with the guilt over what you are and harness that energy for the good of the world.
There is utility in anger.
Directionless rage results in a prison population that is overwhelmingly male.
Channeled, focused aggression, coupled with a sense of reason and moral principles, results in unspeakable good for the world.
We can clean up the oceans, write life-changing novels, compose symphonies, mould young minds, siphon lightning, put an end to poverty, and spread love throughout the lands – if only we become the masters of our will.
4 – Find a partner who elevates you
Women are more culturally denigrated today than in any other time in history.
That sounds like an absurdist statement, designed deliberately to inflame, or perhaps borne out of one who is completely ignorant of legislative strides.
But return to Whitman.
Return to that Bible of Modern Day America called Leaves of Grass:
‘I am the poet of the woman the same as the man,
And I say it is as great to be a woman as to be a man,
And I say there is nothing greater than the mother of men.’
[‘Song of Myself’ (1855)]
Behind every great man is a great woman – often, multiple (wife, mother, grandmother, daughter, sister, teacher).
When you know, you know.
There’s no valour in delaying that which we were put on this earth to do.
The rejection of chivalry is a lie founded on faceless corporate greed.
Netflix-and-chill empowers nobody.
Family is the future.
5 – Find God to find yourself
Even atheists need a touchstone of belief.
It doesn’t matter where you find your salvation, all that matters is you do.
The Koran, the Bible, the Tanakh, the Writings of Buddha, the Complete Works of Shakespeare, the novels of Jane Austen, Aristotle’s Ethics – Holy Scripture all.
Turn inward.
Moral principles hinge upon an understanding of human nature and the good/bad duality.
Morality should be founded on equal parts reason and equal parts intuition.
Morality formed on following the procession of outraged public opinion is a house of cards built upon sand.
You want that which the waves can never wash away.